The Surrogacy Process: What To Expect

If you are reading this, chances are that you are curious about the surrogacy process and what to expect. Welcome! We’re so happy you are here and are considering giving the gift of life with Elite Women Surrogacy. It’s very important to research when looking for an agency that is the best fit for you. We hope that this will help you get a better idea of what to expect in the surrogacy process with EWS, in a nutshell.

So you’ve decided to take that leap of faith and apply. Hooray! When filling out the application, it is important to be honest because it is included in your profile that will be presented to potential Intended Parents. Once the application is received, one of our Surrogate Coordinators will review everything and either approve or deny the application.  You will be contacted by a coordinator within 24 hours after your submission.  If approved, they will send you the necessary paperwork and set up an intake with you via video chat or in our office.  With your signed paperwork, your coordinator will also request medical records from all your past pregnancies. During this beginning stage, your coordinator will be your main point of contact to provide you with information about the process. Our surrogate coordinators pride themselves on being accessible to you for any questions you may have at any point. When your profile is complete, you will be introduced to your Case Manager who will provide you with guidance through your entire journey.

Once you are with your Case Manager, the matching process begins. The time line of the matching process can vary. You may be on the database for less than a week or it may take months. There are many factors that are taken into consideration during this process because it is not a simple one. When your match is found, you will be provided with an Intended Parent profile where you will be able to see pictures of them and learn a little bit about them. If you decide that you would like to meet the Intended Parents, depending on the situation, you will meet via video chat or sometimes in person. After the meeting, both you and the Intended Parent’s will decide if you would like to move forward together. If you both feel it is a good fit, and agree to move forward together, you are considered a match.

Congratulations, you’re matched! Upon your match, you will be scheduled for your screenings. The first and most important is the psychological evaluation. This series of tests and interview process should be expected to take at least 3-4 hours. You will then be scheduled for a full medical screening at the Intended Parent’s IVF clinic. This screening includes a vaginal ultrasound and a full panel of blood tests, including drug and STD. If you are coming from a different state, your Case Manager will prepare all of the necessary travel arrangements. Your significant other may need to participate in the medical and psychological screenings as well.

When you have cleared both screenings, we will contact the representing attorneys to begin drafting the contract. This contract will be between you and your IP’s and it is critical that you fully read your contract prior to the contract review, which you will have with your attorney. The contract review will be done over the phone or in person. When both parties agree and decide to finalize the contract, everybody signs and notarizes them. When the contract is finalized, there will be NO changes.

Legal clearance is a big step in the surrogacy process. This is when it all starts to really happen! After legal clearance, we will contact the clinic to get you a cycle calendar. This calendar will include a timeline of when you will begin taking medications and scheduling your monitoring appointments to prepare for the embryo transfer. Each physician has a different medical protocol for the IVF process. Prior to the embryo transfer, you will need to attend an appointment with the doctor’s office or a local monitoring clinic for vaginal ultrasounds and blood work at least twice before the embryo transfer. It is very, very important that you attend these appointments and take the proper medications as instructed.

The embryo transfer will be scheduled approximately 4 weeks after the start of injections. The transfer is about a 10-minute procedure and some doctors will use an ultrasound during the procedure. When the transfer is complete, you will lie back for a few minutes. Shortly after, you will be released for bed rest. If you are traveling far from home, your case manager may coordinate a hotel for you and your support person. Bed rest is extremely important. It is important to remain calm and still. You will have blood work appointments between the transfer and pregnancy test to monitor your hormone levels.

Oh baby! Most IVF Physicians will perform the first blood pregnancy test approximately 10 days after the transfer. You will have two blood tests and a couple ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy via heartbeat ultrasound. When you are confirmed pregnant, your Case Manager will be available to you for emotional support and you are welcome to contact them with questions at any time. Your Case Manager will check in with you periodically to see how you are feeling. You will update them by phone or email after each doctor’s appointment and about when your next appointment is scheduled to update the Intended Parents and coordinator.

The moment everyone has waited for…

When you enter the third trimester in your pregnancy, be sure to pre-register at the hospital where you will deliver. Your Case Manager will provide you with a Birth Plan so you and the IP’s are prepared for the involvement in the birth. This moment can be emotional because all of the time and effort you have put into making this dream into a reality for your Intended Parents, will come to a close. While it is the end of the pregnancy, it is important to remember that it is also the start of a new life for a family and you made it happen.

Each journey is different in their own beautiful and special way. It is filled with a plethora of emotions for both you and the Intended Parent(s). As your agency, we are here to guide you every step of the way. You will always have someone to talk to, laugh with, and lean on.

We are your agency. Welcome to Elite Women Surrogacy.

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Esmeralda’s Journey

       Hello! My name is Esmeralda and I would like to share with you a little about my journey to becoming a surrogate. Surrogacy isn’t something you hear about everyday. The only knowledge I had came from watching movies. One day my best friend told me she was pregnant, but not with her baby and went on to explain that she was a surrogate carrying for a same sex couple. I was immediately fascinated and thought “wow how amazing!” Maybe one day I can help a couple of my own start their family.  At this point I knew I was done having kids so I decided to talk to my husband and he was very supportive and encouraged me to do so if that is what I wanted, so we had a talk with my children because it was important for me for them to know. My immediate family was extremely supportive of the idea.

         After months of research I decided that I was ready and applied to start the process!I went through a lot of paperwork, interviews, and then I went in for my medical screening. The appointment consisted of a consultation, physical exam, blood test, urine drug screen, pap smear, fluid ultrasound and a MOCK transfer (trial transfer to measure the uterus). I did a psychological evaluation with a psychologist to make sure I was mentally capable of carrying someone else’s child and then met and matched with a single intended father who was using an egg donor. When the legal process was completed I waited a few months for a my cycle calendar. The process was delayed because there were no embryos yet, something that was not disclosed to me. I continued to ask, but never got a straight answer. Close to a year along I still hadn’t heard anything but waited patiently. On February 2017 my father passed away and during that time the agency reached out to me telling me that the embryos were ready and wanted me to start right away. I asked for some time because of my fathers passing but they had no sympathy and terminated my contract. After this I put my process on hold for a while. All of a sudden, the one thing I was preparing for, for over a year, I no longer was.

A couple months later, for different reasons, I started working for Elite Women Surrogacy as a Case Manager. My best friend, who owns the company, advised me to continue to hold off on this journey as she wanted to me take a look at other journeys and to see all that a journey entails. She knew I was not mentally ready yet after my dads passing. I learned so much, in so little time and was able to relate to the surrogates. After some time I wanted to continue with my journey and knew I was 100% ready. In November 2017 I was matched with a wonderful couple and immediately started the process. I went for my medical screening once more as well as my psychological screening and when the legal process was complete I was given a calendar and my transfer was set for March 2nd. I knew that surrogacy is a process that your simply cannot can’t rush!

Before I knew it, transfer day was here! On my transfer day I was very nervous even though I had seen surrogates go through a transfer many times.  It was more of an exciting nervous hoping that it would be a success. It was extremely easy and pain free. A few weeks later I went in for my 1st pregnancy test and it was positive! I was so happy, and so happy for the parents to be! I shared the news with them right away! Now that I am 20 weeks pregnant I update them at least once a week. It has been such an amazing journey so far. I have a lot of support from friends and family. For anyone wanting to participate in this amazing process but are afraid of what people may think, you must know that unfortunately there will always be someone who is close minded or simply not okay with your decision to become a surrogate (or anything else in life) and have a negative opinion. You must remember that YOU are helping a family’s dream come true and therefore the only opinion that matters is that of your own.

I am excited for what is to come and am eager to experience the rest of this journey.

Again, this is just a quick glance into my journey, a lot more detail is within the detail, and I am no professional writer 😉 but I do hope you enjoyed reading.

Love,
Esmeralda

P.S. Here’s a link to an amazing article that covers some common questions and misconceptions about the surrogacy journey through the lens of a surrogate. We found it to be a great read and hope you enjoy it as well!

Link:  https://www.thelist.com/35900/untold-truth-surrogacy-according-surrogate/

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Introduction

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Hello and welcome to Elite Women Surrogacy’s blog! As an agency, we understand first-hand the many questions a prospective surrogate might encounter when first learning about the surrogacy process and deciding whether or not she would like to embark on her very own journey. Here you will find the latest news about our agency, stories documenting Intended Parent’s journeys as well as Surrogate’s journeys, FAQ’s and helpful surrogacy information. We will publish a new blog post each month. Monthly posts will focus on a single topic to ensure that we thoroughly discuss and provide all information regarding it. If you have any questions on a particular post/topic or would simply like to comment, we encourage you to do so! Also, if you have a topic of interest that you would like us to explore, feel free to reach out to us and share your suggestion. We can’t wait to interact with you all and look forward to our upcoming discussions. Check back on July 1st to read our first official entry!

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EWS

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